Gotluck2Learn to cultivate luck for greater success and opportunity – by DEFINE’s Emotional Wellness Expert, Jessica Pass, LMFT 

Have you ever wondered why some people just seem to always have the best luck? What makes some luckier than others? And is luck only by chance or can it be cultivated?

Interestingly enough, The Serena Project is an organization that exists to research serendipitous acts, studies and analytics that we can all benefit from. They found that people who were the luckiest, were less rigid in their lives, knew a good opportunity when it was presented and seized the moment.

They also found that they had to be willing to take risks in order to experience luck; they had to change jobs, go somewhere they were afraid to go or meet someone new. In other words, these people were open to new opportunities and even though they may have had fear about what they would experience (vulnerability, embarrassment, insecurity, etc) they were able to face it and move on.

I’ve also heard luck described as the overlap of what we love and what loves us back. Meaning what passions do we have and how pursuing them benefits us. Embracing what you are passionate about and experiencing the positive outcome that is created will prove to be more important than trying to find ways to get lucky (purchasing lotto tickets, gambling, finding a four leaf clover, etc).

The difficulty I have with our society’s “get rich quick” mentality of luck is that it communicates that we are not in control of the good things we experience or that luck is simply something that just happens at random, with little to no investment. Breeding wishful thinking that if only “x” would happen, then I’d finally do, “y.” What happens when this way of living life takes front and center? We become so focused on the end result that we blind ourselves to the luckiest moments that happen at random and without our awareness.


I like to believe that getting lucky is more about being prepared for new opportunities rather than just pure luck, randomness and chance.

This helps me to focus on my day to day tasks and agendas, it helps me to be in the moment and open to possibility. It also helps me to remain mindful daily, grateful for the abundance of blessings around me and away from destructive thoughts of “what ifs” and waiting for things to happen to me.

Instead of thinking of luck as something that only happens to the luckiest, think about ways you can begin to cultivate it in your life. 


If you’re not sure where to start try these tips increase your odds:greenline

1) Pursue your passions – What do you love? What loves you in return? Find the overlap and never “work” another day in your life.

2) Take possibility by the reigns – Be open to new opportunities, take chances and trust yourself. You can have all the passion in the world, but without follow through your passions are less likely to materialize.

3) Decide to live for the moment – Look for ways to find gratitude daily. Open your eyes, take in your surroundings and slow down. Living in the moment creates openness, insight and a deeper understanding of yourself.

4) Change your scenery – Put yourself in a new environment, learn something you have always wanted to or take a trip spontaneously. Newness breeds creativity and you’d be amazed how much opportunity is out there once you get out of your normal routine and day-to-day environment.

5) Embrace your fears – What scares you will also motivate you. Understand your fears and do something positive to overcome them. When we let our fears paralyze us we cut off opportunities that could forever change our lives.

I realize this is not a “get rich fast” list however, if you can keep an open mind these tips will create exciting and unexpected moments, ones that could prove to be life changing encounters you might not have ever noticed or been present for. Seize them, you’ll be glad you did and we’ll all be calling you the luckiest before too long.

JessicasHeadshots001DEFINE’s Emotional Wellness ExpertJessica Pass, LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Instructor at DEFINE body & mind. She has a private practice in Houston, Texas, specializing with children, adolescents, individuals, couples and parents. Jessica’s approach incorporates mind-body integration, education and practical strategies to improve emotional wellness, emphasizing all aspects of who we are to live fully and thrive in our relationships.

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